CAROLINA GAVIRIA, LMHC, NCC, CEDS

Psychotherapist

5300 W Hillsboro Blvd, Suite 210

Coconut Creek, FL 33073

 

2419 E. Commercial Blvd, Suite 203

Ft. Lauderdale, FL 33308

Call me at:

561.305.2497

email me at:

carolinagaviriamhc@gmail.com

© 2019 by Carolina Gaviria, LMHC, NCC, CEDS

 

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Parenting can be one of the most challenging journeys we will ever take. It’s a 24-7 type of commitment for the rest of our lives and a journey that can bring up all sorts of emotions, especially if we have unresolved stuff from our own childhood. Parenting can be also very rewarding and an opportunity to grow and heal the wounds from our experiences growing up and in our relationship with our parents and ourselves. It can expand our comfort zone and allow us to become the adult that our children need us to be while taking care of our inner child.

Like many parents, I tend to become so caught up in my own agenda and the emotions that arise from being a woman trying to show up for everything: being a mother, a wife, a professional, a daughter and a friend, that I miss to see my kids wanting to “take their time” as opportunities to slow dawn in my own day, my kids “asking questions” as opportunities to teach them something new and share my experiences with them. In the midst of the busine...

When talking about basic emotional needs and feelings, many of my clients ask me with a sense of concern and shame: “Do you feel needy, too?” I always validate their feelings and explain to them that when we grow up with parents who were too busy, emotional unavailable or engaging in toxic relationships that can be dramatic and distracting, we don’t get our needs met as a children. Many parents perhaps struggled with addictions, eating disorders or were just too overwhelmed with life leaving kids feeling lost and empty. I know that when our needs aren’t met they become bigger and louder. Kids tend to act out and if you grow up with piles of unmet needs then we can easily become people who struggle to ask for what we want and need.

A hierarchy of human needs identified by recognized psychologists included “survival, safety, touching, skin contact, attention, mirroring and echoing, guidance, listening, being real, participating, acceptance, opportunity to grieve losses and to grow, suppor...

When we have a deeply distressing or disturbing experience our lives can change in a very significant way. We might feel sad, angry, scared, ashamed and isolated. Especially when we are children and we don’t have the internal resources or the language to deal with traumatic experiences, process them and overcome them, we end up feeling stuck in a place of overwhelming emotions. This is the reason why experiencing trauma in childhood can have a severe and long-lasting effect in our lives. When childhood trauma is not resolved, a sense of shame, fear and helplessness carries over into adulthood, setting the stage for further trauma, depression, anxiety and even more complex disorders. Some people on their search for relief and pain avoidance fall into the path of addictions, eating disorders and other self-destructive behaviors. Some others try to distract themselves from the suffering by focusing on drama and relationships. However, there is only so much you can eat, use, and avoid.

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